• The Forgiveness Question | Posted by Mart De Haan on Mar 14 2008

    Something has gone wrong with forgiveness. As wrong and as self-destructive as a bitter, vengeful spirit is, isn’t there something missing when we say, I need to forgive to get the anger out of my own stomach?
    Is it really Christ-like to say that we need to unconditionally forgive others so that we can get past [...]

  • The Trust Card | Posted by Mart De Haan on Mar 13 2008

    “I can’t forget what happened. I don’t trust you anymore, and I don’t think I could ever trust you again.”
    Those words are like a trump card. Whoever uses them wins the hand (assuring mutual defeat) by acknowledging a loss of hope. It doesn’t matter what cards the other player is holding. Mutual trust is so [...]