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Father Issues (1st of 3)

Let’s see if we can help one another through an issue that seems to be pretty common. Feel free to disagree with me. We’ll learn more if we talk to one another. Here’s a start on what I’ve been thinking about a problem that has some serious implications on our ability to pray and trust God.

In talking to others lately, I’ve concluded that, some of us have a hard time relating to God the Father. We sing to the Son, pray to the Son, and ask ourselves, “What would Jesus do?” But when Jesus talks about His Father, He touches issues that may be affecting us more than we realize.

Maybe our problem is that His Father doesn’t answer our prayers as we want Him to. Or we think of Him in terms of the human fathers we have known. Many of us have never even heard our biological father say, “I love you.” Some have inherited a legacy of abandonment, addiction, and even abuse.

Even the best of fathers fail us in life and leave us in death. In one way or another, all of us have been affected by what the Bible calls “the sins of the fathers.”

Sins of the Fathers

The same Bible that tells us to honor our fathers also documents the moral failures of patriarchs like Adam, Noah, Abraham, Jacob, David, and Solomon.

Even the New Testament acknowledges the tendency of fathers to provoke their children to anger (Ephesians 6:4). Another passage makes a distinction between the fathers who discipline us as they see best and the Father in heaven who always knows how to correct us for our own good (Hebrews 12:9-10).

In a day when so many of us long for a return to family values, it is disappointing to discover that a good dad is hard to find in the Bible.

So now, what are you thinking?

Don’t feel limited by the following. But here are some questions I’d like to hear some comments on:

Do you think I’m overstating the problem?

Do you agree that even the best of human fathers ends up letting us down?

What do you make of the fact that a model dad is hard to find in the Bible?

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19 Responses to “Father Issues (1st of 3)”

  1. ppostma1 says:

    I believe the fact that there are few model fathers in the bible is a reminder that we have only one perfect father. We can’t expect that from anyone else.

  • martdehaan says:

    I’ve found though that people who believe God is the only perfect Father may still have a hard time feeling loved and accepted by Him.