I have my first individual session with a marriage counselor and waste no time making my case. I say, “It’s gotten so bad my wife doesn’t even listen to me any more. I think she’s deaf or something. But she won’t do anything about it.”
“Well”, the counselor says to me, “I’d like to know how hard of hearing she is. First chance you get, try something. Stand about 15 feet from her and say something. If she doesn’t reply, move about 5 feet closer and say it again. Keep moving closer until she hears you so we can get an idea of just how bad her hearing is”.
So, I go home and find my wife in the kitchen, stir frying some vegetables. Just like the counselor told me, I stand about 15 feet from her and say in a rather low voice, “Honey, what’s for dinner?”
Hearing no response, I move about 5 feet closer and ask again. No reply, so I move 5 feet closer. Still no reply.
With confirmed frustration, I now move to within two inches of her ear, and raising my voice ever so slightly ask again, “Honey, what’s for dinner?”
Not missing a beat, she turns around, looks me in the eye and says, “What’s wrong with you? For the fourth time, chicken and vegetables!”
Maybe that’s why some of us are wary of counselors :-)
Can’t remember where I heard that one. But with the smile, comes some wisdom– under the radar.